Need advice from Christians on SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE?

I am sorry to start off by saying that I am neither christian nor a virgin, however my boyfriend is both of these. He has this ';rule'; that he promised God this that and the other, however the general gist is that he will not have sex until he is 21 and even then until he has found the right person. I respect this and feel really nice when he tells me he things that I'm the right person. However, every now and then he'll say stuff like ';Gah, I hate myself right now. That stupid rule'; and will get really frustrated. I really don't want him to do something he'll regret. Just wanted some advice on how I can encourage him to stick to his ';rule';. I really really need advice and all answers will be appreciated.Need advice from Christians on SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE?
Don't tempt him. Don't do things that would usually lead to sex. That way he might not have the chance to get frustrated. Other than that tell him that you respect him for sticking to his convictions.Need advice from Christians on SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE?
Sorry to say this, but you bf is gay. Im not saying this to be mean, just realistic. How many ';christian'; guys do you know that haven't had pre-marital sex. Its one of those rules these ';christians'; dont take seriously. Its a hard truth, but either he is not attracted to you at all, or he is gay, and trying to use faith as a ';nobel'; excuse not to touch you.
if you care about him you wont pressure him about it and show some maturity like most don't and look at the mess relationships are IN today
Tell him that the bible says, cleanloness is next to godliness in christian lives and also christians must keep themselves pure until after marriage or they would be committing fornication and adultery.


Why does he want to wait until 21? he can marry because the bible says that it is better to marry than to burn.
he should wait until he is married, not 21. the scriptures say nothing about age.......
He is setting himself up for a fall by going out with a non Christian, and I am sure God will give him his way in order to teach him that principle. No sex before marriage is not the only rule in Christianity, going out with a non believer is one also. ';God is not mocked, whatever a man sows that will he also reap.';
You and he are not right for each other - it will not work
Your boyfriend may feel somewhat intimidated, that you have already had sexual experiences, while he has not. If you want him to stick to the promise he made and think that you can wait for him, then take some of the tension off by telling him that you admire his choice (especially if you truly care for him and you do admire him). He may need to know that you are ok with his decision. I wouldn't doubt that he feels that you could get frustrated by the decision he made before he met you. You seem to be caring and understanding, so just make sure he knows where you stand, and what your genuine feelings are for him, that you respect his beliefs, etc.
so why wait to get married? we dk your age but that would be rough for me..
well your bf is def not gay, just cuz he doesnt wanna be like any other person his age and do it wid someone, have you thought about his religion and what it means to him? Maybe it was never a good idea to get involved if you wanted more from him then you knew he could give, and he is a normal guy just like the rest of them but he must respect women, not saying that people who dont believe in this are no lesser but some guys dont give a damn about who they sleep wid and maybe its for the best. And for the age and marriage thingy i dont think both of these apply cuz you cnt do both. but good luck nyways no matter which way it turns out.
Well there's always exercise and video games. That can kill a sex drive fast if he gets into them. There's always avoid temptation, never have him alone with you, have him over at your parents house or his parents house. Or hell just break up with him till he's 21, I mean if you both think your right for each other then you all can wait. This is from a Christian context I don't agree with but these are solutions that work.
It is a sin tentamounting to cuckold , wantnoness, unbashfulness and shameless activity.
you cannot help him without FAITH. How can you give something you don't posses?
He's a man, you can break him with enough persistence and sexiness. And if you can't, he's so far gone he's hardly worth saving from his DOGMA (see my question on this :). You deserve a man who is strong enough to uphold his own values not those of some organization he participates in.





... Or Just explain how much he's gonna hate himself the moment before he dies and realizes all the wonderful experiences he missed out on.
He needs to pray about this every day, and ask God to help him with temptations. Remind him that even Jesus dealt with temptations but he remained sinless. Your boyfriend is only human, and not perfect but once you make a commitment and promise to God you need to pray for the strength to stick with it. God Bless you both!!!